Vol. 017–The 5 Most Important Relationships in Your Life Right Now, and How to Improve Them

1 oz of water to garden your health

2 Tools for growth

1 Cool Product

Random Musings

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Action to water your health

Relationships can be difficult but can help us grow. They can be the best experiences in our lives. We often forget that we're in several relationships at any given moment. Not just the romantic ones. Let's take a look at 5 ways to improve these relationships. 

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Food🍲. Diets, there are millions of them. The Atkins diet, keto, paleo, zone, 5:2, dukan, south beach, elimination, liquid, raw food...you get the point.

People usually quit in a couple of weeks. Why? some are complex and unsustainable long-term. Don't fall for the fad diets. Choose something "healthy" that you are happy with and can stick to.

Cook when able. Choose unprocessed foods. Above all be gentle with yourself. In high school, I could only afford a cup of noodles for lunch and dinner. As an adult? frozen meals and soups out of a can. I had zero understanding of what "healthy" food was.

Since we can’t truly define healthy eating, it’s important to understand unhealthy eating and our relationships with food.

Physical Health💪. This could be an entire book and I'm sure there are tons. So let's stick to the overachieving topics.

Mental ↔ physical health is bi-directional. Working out can help mental health and vice versa. You need to do both to be "fit". If you haven't "worked out" in years, months, or days that's ok.

Start today. One push-up, a short stroll in the neighborhood, anything to start that streak.

I was listening to the knowledge project podcast with B.J. Fogg and he said it best:

Behavior happens when 3 things occur concurrently (MAPS):

• Motivation

• Ability

• Prompt

He also mentioned the 3 approaches to helping people perform certain behaviors:

1. Train the person: Skill them up so that they know how to do something. E.g: If you want someone to eat more vegetables, teach them how to cook vegetables

2. Redesign the environment: Put tools or resources in the person’s environment. E.g: Get tools to chop up vegetables and recipes to make them taste good

3) Scale the behavior back: Take whatever action you’re trying to do and scale it down. E.g: Instead of working out for an hour, scale it down and work out for a few minutes.

Work 🖥️. With working from home the boundary between work and life is becoming more blurred.

You're truly never "off". For some, work = life, people are energized by what they do and enjoy it. If that's you, great. If not, great. If you want 2 side hustles on top of work. Great. The point being is to have a vision in mind.

What is your end goal? to have financial freedom? travel the world? Do you want to manage more people or manage more capital, products, media, and community? Make sure your work is propelling you towards that future.

Significant other 💍.The reality is most romantic relationships can be as complex as trying to solve x3+y3+z3=k, with k being all the numbers from one to 100 (a supercomputer figured it out).

They can also be simple, beautiful, meaningful, and powerful. Behind every criticism is often a wish. Arguing in a relationship often has little to do with the content of the argument itself.

I won't waste your time with hallow relationship advice you've heard millions of times. Most of the time it's useless. Instead here are 1,500 pieces of relationship/marriage advice from couples living "happily ever after" complied into 12 main points. Take the time to read it. Worth it.

Mental Health 🧠. I was raised with the notion that mental health was for the elite. It was a social stigma in my community.

If someone has physical discomfort, they get it checked out – when we have emotional discomfort, we minimize it. Isolate it. Push it to the depth of our minds. We devalue our emotional health.

Invest in your relationship with your emotional health–you'll likely find the interconnectedness. Things will start to matter a little more. Get therapy. Talk about it with close friends or partners.

Tools for growth

Ideatiny makes 3 awesome apps. Goalo (focus on a task), focus noodles (Focus timer), and moodling (different language idk). These apps make you want to use them. Pleasant. Fun. And beautiful design.

Terms of Service Didn't Read: Let's be honest. No one reads the terms of service. This website gives you the highlights of most terms of service. Let's look at Spotify for example.

It has a grade E rating, which raises serious concerns. You wave your moral rights, and they can delete whatever they feel like. Intense!

Cool Product

WAOAW Sleep Mask: One of the most comfortable sleep masks available. The inner padding is like eye pillows. Goodnight.

Random Musings

I'm creating a 21-day sleep course. I wrote this after failing many times to get good quality sleep and nothing seemed to work. I wanted to create actionable steps to get good sleep and be sustainable long-term (no matter where life takes you). We spend a 1/3 of our sleeping so why not improve it?

This jam-packed 21-day email course from books, podcasts, blogs, sleep experts, and neuroscientists. I also added my experiences in the military using untraditional methods.

In this 21-day email course, I share everything I know about sleeping. From nutrition, medications, devices, conventional and unconventional things you won’t find in any book.

If you're interested and want 50% off before it's complete let me know. Likely be done by end of August.

You're an awesome human

Martin, CEO of braincrumbss